If the phrase "familiarity breeds contempt" rings true, going through all the same motions in the bedroom, time and time again, doesn't exactly help in the love department. Relationship experts recommend keeping things spontaneous whether that means trying a different time, place, or generally being more adventurous in bed to avoid falling into a cycle of boring "duty" sex, but also to foster healthy habits in a long-term relationship. Below, we asked eight real women for their favorite sex moves, then consulted sex experts for their tips on how to upgrade your own go-to moves so they feel new and exciting. In short, it doesn't take a Kama Sutra master to have better sex, it's really about breaking from habit, exploring the unknown, and enhancing what already works. Also, this position always pulled double-duty for me and my boyfriend when we were long distance. I have many sexy memories of seeing him again after a long separation and immediately hopping in the shower together to wash off the airplane grime and enjoy a sweet reunion.
After all, sex is about enjoying the body, intimacy, and closeness. Intimacy comes in plenty of forms, including kissing, breast pleasure, oral sex, fantasy, and even anal sex. Read up on oral sex techniques. Play with some new toys.
In fact, according to a study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy in , 37 percent of American women required clitoral stimulation to experience an orgasm, and 18 percent! Madeleine M. Castellanos , a psychiatrist who specializes in sex therapy. This gives a wonderful angle for cervical stimulation, with deep penetration that can produce some intense vaginal and uterine orgasms. With more shallow penetration, a man can stimulate the anterior vaginal wall to hit the G-spot.
If there's ever a time to try a new sex position or technique in the bedroom, it's vacation. It's something about hotel beds — I don't think I've ever waited more than eight minutes after checking in to hop in the sack. And vacations are great because you're feeling less stressed, you have more time to play around, and you're just generally more open. Plus, the crisp sheets and fluffy towels just do something to me, I'll never understand it. It's especially good if you feel like you've been hitting a bit of a sex rut.